Does anyone struggle with rejection? (My story)

[SmilinDesperado]

Throughout my life I have needed entirely zero female friends.

I got a couple that are part of friendship groups or wives of friends but that's it.

Women only want a man to be a friend for one thing, to increase their power. Men want female friends because they're bangable.

I don't need to hang around helping some girl our hoping I'll get wet one day.

Female friends are exes.

You should be past this way of thinking by the time you're 30.
Opposite sex friendships are different, can take a little more work, and they don't work for everyone, but they definitely can work. Some of my best friends are girls, and they're like sisters. I don't want to fuck them. I don't want to date them. And most of them are good looking.
When you're secure, have had enough tail in life, and have other things on the mind beyond getting laid, it's not that hard to be friends with a girl.
lol I have this hot friend that I would never in a million years bang because she is a nut case when it comes to relationships. She's a good friend, but she would be a terrible girlfriend. When you don't look at girls as "girls", and just look at them as people, it's easier to treat them as just one of your bros

 

[LTorino]

lol If you told her this, then WTF do you expect?
A girl hearing this is like 10x worse than a dude. We're used to it..even expect it. A guy telling a girl that they aren't attractive is like a bullet to the gut.
And I"m sure that since you did it drunk, you didn't say it in any sort of nice or constructive way.
lol Of course she doesn't want to fucking talk to you.

OK, I get what you're saying, but why could she tell me I wasn't physically attractive sober and I cannot say it drunk days later? I didn't say she wasn't physically attractive to the point I didn't want her, I believe I said she wasn't as good looking as her pictures, like pretty much everyone I have dated off Tinder, Match, and Bumble. I was basically venting about why did her rejection hurt me more than this gorgeous woman I dated who I am still friends with.

 

[LTorino]

I went through a similar thing recently. Girl who's still a virgin said she wants marriage and kids and was upset at me for not being exclusive, then I became exclusive to her even though we're not having sex yet and she isn't sure if we have a future and thinks friendship might be the way to go. She told me yesterday and I was depressed about it and now I'm over it. My ex sent me a really long heartfelt text about how much she misses me which was good for my ego even though we're done permanently.

Good man. Keep your head up, buddy. Stay strong

 

[LTorino]

You got drunk and talked shit to a girl because she wasn't into you. You're drifting back into your old ways. Don't go back to being the piece of shit that was wishing death on his ex.

I mean, we agreed to be friends on Friday after she said she wasn't sexually into me. The old me would have never done that. I wasn't intending on getting drunk and hurting her, but I must have if she went silent on me. I think I was asking friend advice from her about online dating. I had a particularly bad date that day and was venting about her rejection hurting because I liked her so much. But at the same time, I mentioned how the date I was with wasn't anywhere near as good looking as her pictures and they never were, aside from this woman Stephanie I dated. Reading between the lines, that's saying that she also wasn't as pretty as her pictures.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

OK, I get what you're saying, but why could she tell me I wasn't physically attractive sober and I cannot say it drunk days later? I didn't say she wasn't physically attractive to the point I didn't want her, I believe I said she wasn't as good looking as her pictures, like pretty much everyone I have dated off Tinder, Match, and Bumble. I was basically venting about why did her rejection hurt me more than this gorgeous woman I dated who I am still friends with.

Because she's a girl!
We don't process this shit in the same way. And when you told her this, it sounds like you said it to try and hurt her. From your story, it seems like she was trying to break things off. It started with the Tinder thing and then she found another reason to make you want to give up.
There is no nice way to tell a girl that she's not attractive. There's no nice way to say it to anyone. But a girl is going to take that shit a lot harder because men, women, and society judge a woman a lot more on their looks than they do guys

 

[LTorino]

Because she's a girl!
We don't process this shit in the same way. And when you told her this, it sounds like you said it to try and hurt her. From your story, it seems like she was trying to break things off. It started with the Tinder thing and then she found another reason to make you want to give up.
There is no nice way to tell a girl that she's not attractive. That's no nice way to say it to anyone. But a girl is going to take that shit a lot harder because men, women, and society judge a woman a lot more on their looks than they do guys

I was really drunk, but I wasn't trying to hurt her, honestly. I was telling her how much I cared about her and how hard her rejection hit me. It was also kind of like, "Why did you not find the attraction in me when I ignored the fact you didn't look as good as your pictures?" because that's genuinely a sad thought I had/have. And I get women's idea of attraction is different, which is all the more why her saying I wasn't attractive to her hurt.

 

[UFC=Pride]

Don't ever waste your time with a girl who won't make time to see you that's what I learned the hard way.

 

[Phlog]

You should be past this way of thinking by the time you're 30.
Opposite sex friendships are different, can take a little more work, and they don't work for everyone, but they definitely can work. Some of my best friends are girls, and they're like sisters. I don't want to fuck them. I don't want to date them. And most of them are good looking.
When you're secure, have had enough tail in life, and have other things on the mind beyond getting laid, it's not that hard to be friends with a girl.
lol I have this hot friend that I would never in a million years bang because she is a nut case when it comes to relationships. She's a good friend, but she would be a terrible girlfriend. When you don't look at girls as "girls", and just look at them as people, it's easier to treat them as just one of your bros

Cool story bro.

I'm 38, secure, been monogamous since 2001. I don't want to fuck or date any women other than my wife.

I was speaking in broad strokes, there are women who break the mold, who ain't looking to use you as a crutch but they're few and far between. I realised I didn't think of the couple I have because I don't even think of them as women! Ha! I think it works so well with them tho because we are thousands of miles apart.

I maintain, however, that the dynamic I addressed is the norm and that when people don't see it, that's because they are wholly subject too it. I don't believe people can trust their minds on the matter.

The only objective yardstick is a shared passion imo, outside of that, one or both parties are a bitch.

 

[God_Emperor_Of_Mankind]

I understand. Remember this moment
Never second best ever again.

 

[OverCoronavirus Pressure]

Ok, so are you getting any pussy or is it all masturbation?

Best friends threesome.

 

[Rdude92]

I used to hate being rejected when I was single, but then my buddy basically taught me to just keep hitting on women no matter how many times you strike out. I'm telling you this method pays off huge, sure 7 out of 10 women might tell you to phuck off, but the other 3 might just drain your balls.

Hmm..I don't believe you.

 

[Rdude92]

When I moved to New Orleans back in 2001, I was a wee lad of 23, and my bosses neighbor was this 50 year old + dude who was cleary on some sort of roids or similiar but had the typical large upper body, stick legs lower body.

He said 'You see CHL, here's the thing. I love pussy. When I go out, I hit on all women. Doesn't matter if they're married or single. I've been in fights for it, but it doesn't matter. It also doesn't matter if you strike out most of night. The odds are in YOUR favor if you're persistent. Because there is always one who will say 'yes' and that's what it's all about.'

Get me a pic of him and I'll show you his gold Rolex watch

 

[Cool Hand Luke]

Get me a pic of him and I'll show you his gold Rolex watch

he had a fucking gold rolex watch too

 

[Krixes]

Hmm..I don't believe you.

That's OK, you just need to have self confidence in yourself man. The more you believe in your self the better your outlook will be. Try not to so pessimistic.

 

[Rdude92]

he had a fucking gold rolex watch too

Yup. That's how he secured the pussy.

Him: (after a short convo, physically touching the pussy-owner's arm(girls usually don't wear watches) ) oh..just trying to figure out the time girl (in his mind: u fcking btch)
Her: oh I no have watch sir (she's Asian)
Him: oh darn! Idiot me! I forgot I'm wearing my GOLD ROLEX watch made from Babylon. I need some fresh air. Let's go.
Her: oh yes yes.

After that. It's locked and secured.

 

[Sir Galahad]

Took me awhile to find a picture of this girl you met on Tinder, but I finally found it. I have bad news for you... she's a pornographic beauty

Name please.

 

[Dusty Rhodes]

Fuck being friends with someone who hurt you

Move on dude, you sound like a good person and you'll find someone who will make you happy

 

[Scerpi]

Hope you learned your lesson


Don't ever get into conversing with girls you met online without meeting them.

1 day of messaging is fine max, after that invite her to do stuff. I've had shit like this happen to me before live and learn. She's just being a crazy girl. She was interested.

This seems like excellent and wise advise.

And a great way to keep from getting catfished.

 

[DLX]

Don't waste your emotional energy on these girls. If she doesn't like you, move on. There's 3 billion others out there, one is bound to like you. Life is too short to get hung up on little shit like one girl not liking you.

 

[Phr3121]

Women are fickle...and usually aren't worth the trouble of having them around.

Ok, so are you getting any pussy or is it all masturbation?

Best friends threesome.

Ok, got to be careful with the original statement. People might think you are gay.