Do you have friends?

No I am not better than them. I am just reminding them that since we are getting paid to talk to each other how can we call that friendship?

When we choose to hang out outside work then we can call each other friends.

If they don't ride motorcycles then we can't hang out though lol. Over 30 guys at my work ride motorcycles though
I don't think they're under any impression that you guys are actual friends, there's a difference between work friend/acquaintance, and actual close friend.

You don't have to remind them of that when they're being friendly, they're doing what normal people do, try to be cordial and converse while at work.

You probably sound like a real prick if you actually mention that "you only do it because we get paid" with any sort of frequency.
 
I don't think they're under any impression that you guys are actual friends, there's a difference between work friend/acquaintance, and actual close friend.

You don't have to remind them of that when they're being friendly, they're doing what normal people do, try to be cordial and converse while at work.

You probably sound like a real prick if you actually mention that "you only do it because we get paid" with any sort of frequency.

I do say that to them but everyone knows I am joking.



If there is food involved I tell them "when the food is gone so is our friendship"

If someone brings cake or cookies I tell them "only an asshole would bring cake and no milk"

Haha I know all of this sounds bad but it goes over well at work. It is a very friendly joking place.

If you can't have fun at my work you are an asshole and only 1 guy we call Jimmy the rat can't have fun there
 
sad to see so many lonely people out there. I am not flushed with friendship myself but the only expectation i have from the few friends i do have is to just have a good time together and not play games. I've lost friendships because of drama but the ones i do have i try to keep those friendships simple and drama free. When i have time off from family that one day a week i just want to drink and talk BS with friends
 
I met almost all of my friends through school. When I graduated high school I would say I had a legit 15 people that I considered a good friend. By the time I graduated college that number had gone down to around 5. After college, life kicked in for everyone and we slowly ended up going our separate ways. I started a business and started to miss functions and meet ups because I was so busy. Eventually people stop calling you because you never show up. I'd say within 5 years of graduating college I had lost touch with all my high school friends and only kept in touch with two guys from college. I haven't seen any of my high school friends in 5+ years and didn't even bother going to my 10 year high school reunion.

These days I'd say I have 4 close friends, all of whom I have met through work/business. I do not count my employees as true friends either, its sort of a weird line for me. We are all friends/associates within the confines of work but I wouldn't go to the movies with them or something. I think its all just natural for your inner circle to change with time.
 
Ive always done a good job of meeting people, but rarely do they evolve into friendships. For instance, I'm a pretty avid tennis player and have joined a couple clubs in the last few years. Within these clubs, I probably have 20+ contacts on my phone I can call up to play, but out that 20+, MAYBE two I would call and have a drink with.
 
Most of my good friends I now consider family.

I move state to state every 3-5 years so my "friends" are either people I grew up with or 100% solid people I met during that time
 
Yes but every year it's get harder and harder to maintain friendships. It seems nobody ever wants to do anything, or they've got kids. I'm that married guy who never had kids so I'm left out of a lot circles and social functions.
Bro....

My wife and i haven't had kids yet. And we had a few couples friends that we would go to (before they had kids) dinner, bowling, billiards, etc.

The last kid free couple is my closest friend (whom i consider a brother, known him since 2000) and his wife, who he married last year. They got pregnant this year and i know we won't hang out as much anymore.

It sucks, but oh well.
 
I feel like social media can have a effect on social life like porn with real sex. People get their social fix using FB or twitter so they have less urge to hang out.
 
I've had the same best friend since 1989, we met at a Grateful Dead show and now he's got a kid named after me. We were best men at each other's weddings and we're closer than brothers.

I want to add the word gay, before wedding, and write fixed, but I was mean to you today in the WR, and it will just come across as petty, not funny.
 
I don't think they're under any impression that you guys are actual friends, there's a difference between work friend/acquaintance.
work friend/acquaintance is not friend , you just know him/her .
 
Real life in person friends, like a normal person? Not really. I have exactly one close friend left. I'm introverted and have social anxiety. Years ago I had various friends from jobs, friends of friends, school, etc. But I moved, and other people moved, and couples break up and people choose sides etc.

So today I have friend I never talk to because she had twins and is busy. Another close friend moved and got married, and I think he's going through a divorce atm. Another friend got divorced, threw everything in a van and took off. My best friend disappeared suddenly. I think he's dead.

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I used to make friends through jobs, but haven't clicked with anyone at my last couple of jobs. These days most of my friends are actually on here. Met some very cool people here.
 
...do sex robots count?

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[omg1] WTF!!! the money spent on designing that, and it still looks like a trap.
 
I got a few, less than when I used to go out. Having kids changes things a lot.

I got maybe 3 or 4 I could share shit with, maybe more.

Shared interests is how I've met most of them, having something to do with them that we go do, friendship comes outta that.

I don't put in enough effort, my kids is my main concern.
 
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