Do the women share some responsibility?

Sorry to intrude on the discussion, but there is actually a lot of evidence that supports this. There are studies about female promiscuity and even sexual economic models. Most of the theories I've read state that women enforce female promiscuity far more than men (even--especially, actually--in the most sexually "repressive" cultures in North Africa and the Middle East). One of the main reasons for this is that women have a very careful balance of power that revolves around sex. The less they give it up, the more value it has, and the more they can get from men for it (again, in many "repressive" countries, a family with a pretty daughter can radically change their social status). One promiscuous woman can fuck up that whole economy and wreck the situation for dozens of women.


Interesting. I was just in session yesterday with a very beautiful woman who USED to use her sexuality in many ways to get advantage and also more often to get the approval of men. I asked her about this subject and she told me that it was WOMEN who taught and reinforced the use of sexuality to get advantage. She said women, WAY more than men, taught her this.


It is also interesting that she was very nearly divorced recently as her very wealthy and successful husband had been having an emotional affair with his secretary. He is actually checking into a week long Christian program dedicated to helping men NOT objectify women.

My client -- the woman- also stated that at first she was going out of her way to protect the secretary as she saw her as a victim but it came out over time that even though she was married she was totally complicit in the relationship.

On the other hand even though the husband acknowledges that the secretary was complicit he sees himself as a sort a Weinstien using his power to gain advantage with women and is disgusted by it...... and truly seeking help.

Both parties acknowledge that what drew them together in the first place was a shared mutual sexual dysfunction. She selling her sexuality for approval and him lusting over her inappropriate sexuality. Their problems really began when she outgrew her sexual issues- found a dignity and worth beyond her sexuality and no longer reciprocated that unhealthy relationship....

Over time his pornography, his lusting and his emotional affairs caused her to pull away sexually making him MORE lonely and wanting connection and seeking it elsewhere until the marriage almost ended.

Tangled webs.....
 
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