Actually I was clear in my first reply, then I clarified it for you further because I thought you might have missed something. Of course women sometimes mourn a miscarriage, particularly when its later-term and the woman knows its happened. On the other hand, many times, in shorter-term cases, the woman is not aware of the baby's death. The latter case may be the more interesting one, because it happens with alarming frequency (and is not represented in the statistic that I quoted, which is the rate based on known pregancy). Probably 40% of all fertilized zygotes (I mean babies) die. These deaths are exascerbated by risky behaviours of the mother. From wikipedia; Risk factors for miscarriage include an older parent, previous miscarriage, exposure to tobacco smoke, obesity, diabetes, thyroid problems, and drug or alcohol use And I am serious. It is almost certain that my wife miscarried before having my daughter, but those dead babies are not on my radar. On the other hand, if my daughter died, it would probably kill me. This very clear reality of the situation is carefully avoided when religion enters the picture, which attempts to charge the issue emotionally by using words like "killed baby" instead of "miscarried zygote".