The problem with the feminine ideal of freedom is that it often assumes that an individual is not capable of fulfilling even his or her most base responsibilities. And the further we descend down that path, the more incapable we truly become of fulfilling them. A domesticated farm animal is taken care of, and lives a relatively secure and stable life, but I do not think anyone would pretend that it is more "free" than the wild animal. Even if it may be less responsible for its own existence. Given enough time, the animal that lives in the farm, is no longer even capable of being "free" in the wilderness, and can only continue to exist under others' care. Is that how we wish to live?
To have someone else carry your water, for a reward, is a mutually beneficial trade deal. To have someone else carry your water, because it is assumed that you are unable to do it as a man, is pity. An inequal deal where one has no bargaining worth whatsoever, outside of an appeal to continued sympathy. And once the pity runs out, you may no longer have anyone carrying your water.
That's a bad situation to be in. It's better for us to assume that we are, at the end of the day, individually responsible for ourselves, to prevent others from having complete and utter control over our lives.
Compromises will always have to be made from our existence, for practical purposes, leading us to secure our well-being in exchange for a liberty that we deem unnecessary, but we should never let go of the ideal. To conform to our sense of safety, confines our level of existence.
In these times, especially, we should never allow ourselves to succumb to our innate wish for increased security. Think of what the past generations went through, and how they still reached for liberty, even through World Wars, starvations, disease, constant threat of violence. Had they simply been content to live under a "benevolent" tyrant, securing their well-being, as the Chinese are, we would have never reached this point. No democracy, no minority rights, nothing.
The level of violence today is bad, but it is menial compared to what the previous generations have dealt with. It is not worth derailing ourselves from the path that we've chosen, here in the West.