You know, I think you're right. If you have a healthy respect for someone you'd like to enter a union with, you owe it to them to have that honest discussion. Be forthright about what we are as biological creatures in order to share a real understanding of each other. Communication is key, and also being honest about our roles. We can't afford to let either be clouded by a given day's flippant pop psychology but rather open to the wisdom of the ages.
@Rav1n1983 you should be ashamed for being a part of this bar lowering and dragging everyone down into this disgusting thread.