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Daughter is a freshman and is pretty and just a nice girl. She had a group of friends from middle school, some girls some boys, they stay in touch through social media. The boys, at least 4 of them, at some point had a crush on her. She's not into that so she pretty much turned them all down but doesn't have issue with being friends...cool.
The issue..fucking jealous girls in the group. Because the boys liked her all of a sudden she is a tease. My daughter finds out what they said and is wondering what the heck she did to potentially lead these boys on. Can't figure it out feels bad and defensive at the same time. She isn't the confrontational type so she just sits back and takes whatever is being thrown at her.
She can't escape one girl because they are in the same high school and share some of the same friends. This other girl tells other girls that my daughter hates them. My daughter doesn't know what to do, we find this out last night cause she came home really upset. This type of shit has been going on all fucking school year.
We have my daughter in counseling and last week the counselor thinks she has clinical depression and should see out family doc. Today, they are talking Prozac. I'm just pissed. The dad in me wants to get in this little bitches face but I obviously can't do that. There is only so much talking we can do to our daughter to help her find new ways to handle it but it doesn't matter. She is getting mentally bullied to some degree and this girl is pretty much messing up any social connections. So wherever my daughter looks she feels like "that person doesn't like me" or "they thing I hate them." Ughh...fucking kids!
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So the wife and I decided that maybe the best course of action would be to starve the plant of water. Meaning, shut the girl down so when she speaks she doesn't get the attention she craves. There are 2 other girls who we are familiar with that have known my daughter for some time and we know their parents. So the wife decided to talk with these girls instead. She basically asked them for help in shutting the girl down when she says anything negative regarding my daughter. They were wonderful about the entire thing. The most interesting thing about this conversation is that these girls knew exactly what my wife was talking about and confirmed the things that were said about my daughter to them. The other interesting thing is that these girls had no idea this was going on and from their perspective, my daughter has her shit together. The other thing was that these two girls themselves (whom my daughter respects and admires) have their own bullshit that they are dealing with, but you would never know that unless you asked. I'm trying to keep this short and simple. So we'll see if my daughter gets some support from these two girls and help in shutting down this girl who has been talking smack. My daughter doesn't know that my wife spoke with these girls either but according to my wife they were totally on board and it seems like to some degree there was some relief in knowing that there are other people who deal with bullshit even though they can't see it.
The issue..fucking jealous girls in the group. Because the boys liked her all of a sudden she is a tease. My daughter finds out what they said and is wondering what the heck she did to potentially lead these boys on. Can't figure it out feels bad and defensive at the same time. She isn't the confrontational type so she just sits back and takes whatever is being thrown at her.
She can't escape one girl because they are in the same high school and share some of the same friends. This other girl tells other girls that my daughter hates them. My daughter doesn't know what to do, we find this out last night cause she came home really upset. This type of shit has been going on all fucking school year.
We have my daughter in counseling and last week the counselor thinks she has clinical depression and should see out family doc. Today, they are talking Prozac. I'm just pissed. The dad in me wants to get in this little bitches face but I obviously can't do that. There is only so much talking we can do to our daughter to help her find new ways to handle it but it doesn't matter. She is getting mentally bullied to some degree and this girl is pretty much messing up any social connections. So wherever my daughter looks she feels like "that person doesn't like me" or "they thing I hate them." Ughh...fucking kids!
Edit for Update -
So the wife and I decided that maybe the best course of action would be to starve the plant of water. Meaning, shut the girl down so when she speaks she doesn't get the attention she craves. There are 2 other girls who we are familiar with that have known my daughter for some time and we know their parents. So the wife decided to talk with these girls instead. She basically asked them for help in shutting the girl down when she says anything negative regarding my daughter. They were wonderful about the entire thing. The most interesting thing about this conversation is that these girls knew exactly what my wife was talking about and confirmed the things that were said about my daughter to them. The other interesting thing is that these girls had no idea this was going on and from their perspective, my daughter has her shit together. The other thing was that these two girls themselves (whom my daughter respects and admires) have their own bullshit that they are dealing with, but you would never know that unless you asked. I'm trying to keep this short and simple. So we'll see if my daughter gets some support from these two girls and help in shutting down this girl who has been talking smack. My daughter doesn't know that my wife spoke with these girls either but according to my wife they were totally on board and it seems like to some degree there was some relief in knowing that there are other people who deal with bullshit even though they can't see it.
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