It is definitely true that 'making a move' is rapidly becoming a lost art. And males losing assertiveness is not healthy in many ways. But even when being assertive and making a move, there are rules and boundaries. And they are not that fucking complicated.
One of the most fundamental rules is that you set the stage for the interaction so that it is not likely to be misinterpreted. IE- You ask a girl out. Out for a date. Out for dinner. Out for coffee. If they say yes to that, while it does not necessarily mean you are going to get laid, it does at least mean that a girl has said yes to a setting where physical intimacy of some kind is a foreseeable outcome.
Now- sometimes physical intimacy manifests out of situations where you do not necessarily need to ask a girl out, but you do need to 'make a move'. Like at a club or bar or whatever. A good way to make a move and gauge interest is to suggest going to a private area. Again, if a woman says yes to that, then while you might not get laid, physical intimacy is at least a foreseeable outcome on her part.
Sometimes you are able to stage some physical antics in a public place, like a club, party or whatever. And in general the very old fashioned '1st base, second base, 3rd base, home' rule of etiquette makes sure that you do not grossly overstep. Though I have personally found that women are more likely to fuck you or suck you in private. When I see 2 people making out in public for ages, I conclude the guy does not know how to close. Once I am snogging and groping on a chick, I am immediately suggesting a more private setting.
The problems arise when these very simple, reasonable boundaries are not honored. Like grabbing an interviewers breast during an interview or asking a person to watch you fucking shower when you are supposed to be in a job interview. Notice how in both those cases physical intimacy is not reasonably foreseeable, and the 'bases rule' is completely ignored.
