Are Friends Over-rated? | Page 2

Discussion in 'Mayberry Lounge' started by Goonerview, Feb 9, 2018.

  1. Organic Damage Alive and ticking inside

    Organic Damage
    Joined:
    Jul 4, 2013
    Messages:
    13,412
    Likes Received:
    9,026
    Location:
    Tainted Empire
    There are friends and then there are "friends" (I call them acquaintances). Social media has really fucked around the terminology on what a friend actually is. If they won't come over and help you move, how much of a friend are they?

    I rather quantity over quality. Good friends we can live across the world from one another and still pick up like we left off. Yet I meet up with the casual friends I've known for years and after the small talk is exhausted I find we have nothing to say to each other.
     
    #21
    Ippy, colby25 and Crimson Glory like this.
  2. Goonerview Gold Belt

    Goonerview
    Joined:
    Nov 19, 2009
    Messages:
    17,079
    Likes Received:
    8,238
    Location:
    England
    There is an element of truth here. Getting drunk and having casual sex with people i don't know is kinda boring and not interesting to me anymore.
     
    #22
    colby25 and mushishi like this.
  3. Horse Style Red Belt

    Horse Style
    Joined:
    Jun 13, 2014
    Messages:
    9,220
    Likes Received:
    15,607
    <36>

    No one cares what you like, you whiny bitch. Not even the person you're defending. Go cry into a pillow
     
    #23
    PolishHeadlock likes this.
  4. Pugilistic Red Belt

    Pugilistic
    Joined:
    May 14, 2008
    Messages:
    7,579
    Likes Received:
    9,650
    Kind of funny because I wanted to start a thread on friendship. You don't have the right friends if you feel like friends as a concept is overrated. That's an odd thought to have.

    The good friends I have offer valuable insights and are just awesome people to be around with. I've had some "useless" friends who offered me nothing other than a chance to test my patience. It's better to cut them out or reduce your time around them.
     
    #24
    LF Celine and mushishi like this.
  5. DM1982 Brown Belt

    DM1982
    Joined:
    Feb 21, 2009
    Messages:
    3,155
    Likes Received:
    4,176

    What you're describing is simply becoming an adult, where friends are less vital and omnipresent compared to when you were a kid.

    Being a part of a dedicated peer group, or group of friends is something we do when we're young - making friends in school, playing/hanging out after school/college/partying, and learning about the facts of life together - where we have none of the pressures or pursuits of adulthood, which are solitary pursuits. Becoming an adult means largely disassembling that social function and these things become surplus to requirements.

    Truly good friends you'll still stay acquainted with, but soon you'll get a wife/girlfriend, start a family and those things will be just a memory/on the periphery of your life.


    Relax. Is normal
     
    #25
    Ippy likes this.
  6. Crimson Glory Red Belt

    Crimson Glory
    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2015
    Messages:
    8,382
    Likes Received:
    4,637
    Location:
    Sovngarde
    This basically. Once you're out of High School, you realize, between a job/college, moving out and everyone else basically doing the same thing, moving in with their significant others, etc, people don't have the time for alot of friends anymore.

    Last time I was at a big party was Halloween(house parties aren't my jam anymore anyway), that's when people get together with large amounts of friends and acquaintances, only a handful of times a year.
    This aswell.

    Having 1000 friends on Facebook means nothing, 90% are just acquaintances.

    No one has time for so many people.
     
    #26
    Ippy and Bubzeh like this.
  7. Kanuck99 Green Belt

    Kanuck99
    Joined:
    Dec 11, 2008
    Messages:
    964
    Likes Received:
    1,270
    Location:
    Winter Wasteland
    Wife = 1
    Kids = 3
    Job = 1
    Friends = 0

    Personally, I like that score.
     
    #27
    Rebelfett, Robocok and Bubzeh like this.
  8. ralphc1 Gold Belt

    ralphc1
    Joined:
    Feb 1, 2009
    Messages:
    24,711
    Likes Received:
    13,724
    I enjoy being alone. Even when the elf comes over, I like it better when she stays a few hours and leaves instead of spending the night. I'd rather sleep alone. Living alone means I do what I want when I want and don't have to worry about what anyone else wants.

    I prefer contact on Email or social media because I can reply whenever I want.
     
    #28
    Horse Style likes this.
  9. Amerikuracana Titanium Belt

    Amerikuracana
    Joined:
    Feb 23, 2007
    Messages:
    39,072
    Likes Received:
    9,342
    Location:
    Macomb mi
    My only friends are the girls i bang and my kids, really. A couple people I went to law school with.
     
    #29
  10. mushishi A is a, a is a, should I save her?

    mushishi
    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2009
    Messages:
    14,810
    Likes Received:
    10,938
    This.

    Get better friends.

    And no, nothing wrong with growing apart from friends; they might be headed down a different path. But really try to find like-minded friends. No one can live alone for an extended period of time and stay sane.
     
    #30
    aerius likes this.
  11. colby25 Brown Belt

    colby25
    Joined:
    Mar 31, 2012
    Messages:
    4,334
    Likes Received:
    1,881
    Very true. I got a few friends like that- who I won't see for years and i'll go down to their house and visit them and pick up where we left off.
     
    #31
  12. mushishi A is a, a is a, should I save her?

    mushishi
    Joined:
    Mar 25, 2009
    Messages:
    14,810
    Likes Received:
    10,938
    Gets old real quick, huh? Youre just entering a different phase of your life. Theres nothing sadder than a middle aged man hitting up bars and clubs trying to pick up chicks.
     
    #32
    Ippy likes this.
  13. HARRISON_3 Silver Belt

    HARRISON_3
    Joined:
    Jul 12, 2007
    Messages:
    14,538
    Likes Received:
    10,059
    Location:
    Within Cells Interlinked
    Have you ever had a McRib?
     
    #33
    Dusty Rhodes likes this.
  14. syct23 ...ElipsisBelt...

    syct23
    Joined:
    Jun 10, 2008
    Messages:
    16,864
    Likes Received:
    2,575
    Location:
    In The Sweat Lodge
    So TS comes from the generation of here is your trophy for showing up to the game "I don't like when people disagree with me, I go to my family because they say everything I do is right"...

    FO/KY...
     
    #34
  15. 2008 Green Belt

    2008
    Joined:
    May 23, 2008
    Messages:
    1,068
    Likes Received:
    372
    The older you get the fewer friends you have. Work, wife, kids, hobbies, different interests, whatever else, takes all your time.

    The few friends I do have left I get to see them maybe every 3,4,5 months.
     
    #35
  16. WalkenWouldOwn Steel Belt

    WalkenWouldOwn
    Joined:
    Oct 25, 2005
    Messages:
    31,784
    Likes Received:
    9,605
    Did you notice this when you started talking seriously about supporting Donald Trump for president? That might have been a factor.
     
    #36
    ShinkanPo and Sir GymTanLaundry like this.
  17. MaureenCretis Brown Belt

    MaureenCretis
    Joined:
    Apr 2, 2008
    Messages:
    4,500
    Likes Received:
    2,879
    Location:
    UK
    It's not their fault you're so much of an unpopular dick.
     
    #37
  18. melvinj0 Gold Belt

    melvinj0
    Joined:
    Jan 19, 2010
    Messages:
    20,243
    Likes Received:
    15,611
    Is this the ghost of Elliot Rogers?
     
    #38
  19. 45ACP I'll Be Back Belt

    45ACP
    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2009
    Messages:
    3,822
    Likes Received:
    3,369
    Location:
    a stupid city
    I have awesome friends, but like most people here, only a few close ones that I go to for support. Most of my close friends I met through common interests/activities, so most of my time with them is spent participating in those activities (skateboarding, snowboarding, mma).

    Sounds like you have shitty friends.

    Or as someone else noted, if you seem to have the same complaints about everyone you become friends with, maybe it's you who's the problem.

    Or maybe you're just antisocial and prefer to be alone. Nothing necessarily wrong with that either.

    But a small circle of close, supportive friends is definitely an asset imo.
     
    #39
    WandySaku2 likes this.
  20. KILL KILL Gold Belt

    KILL KILL
    Joined:
    May 4, 2007
    Messages:
    20,721
    Likes Received:
    11,119
    Location:
    New Jersey / Georgia
    That's why his friends were ridiculing him.
     
    #40
    ShinkanPo, Ippy and WalkenWouldOwn like this.

Share This Page

monitoring_string = "fd5733925866a04e50edd70f38dfaa35"
monitoring_string = "603ac9fff68f23709f2a42bf5e29272b"