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It would be Alan Partridge level uncomfortable.
Dress code is vintage glamour or whatever you're comfortable in.
I MEAN COME ON!!
Advise an arsehole please!
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It would be Alan Partridge level uncomfortable.
Dress code is vintage glamour or whatever you're comfortable in.
I MEAN COME ON!!
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I’m sure they decided not to have kids, but not because it’s bad for the environment. They probably just don’t want to have them. I don’t want to have kids either. So I am not having kids.
They probably say it’s for the environment because they’re tired of people asking why they wouldn’t want to have them and don’t know how to articulate saying why they simply don’t want to.
They probably say it’s for the environment because they’re tired of people asking why they wouldn’t want to have them and don’t know how to articulate saying why they simply don’t want to.
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First of all, a Spirited Away reference on Sherdog. You have my respect, sir. Here's a can of coke.I commend you on your courage to speak truth to flowers. Remember, it is fun to run through the flowers, but be mindful not to crush them.
The next step is developing a more adaptive messaging strategy that will be successful in altering the belief, meaning and purpose of those suffering under destructive ignorance.
At the beginning, speaking truth will make you a prisoner of it, until you learn how it will set you and others free.
You are on the hero's journey. You will come to many shortcuts of self deception, and cities of delusion full of violent ignorance in which you must inhabit at times. Stay the path of truth.
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That's a good point. Legit hadn't even considered that before. Which seems dumb now.
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pretty sure she was joking if she said not having kids was better for environment and more places have to stop allowing kids. I cant stand when people bring them to breweries, exc and have them running around...
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She means the environment of the wedding I think. Kids are annoying as fuck in public most times. Keep your mistakes at home.
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Pics of the other library wife too
You don't have to call peoples' bullshit out all the time. Just try to stop and think if it's actually important for you to say what you want to say. If they're doing something dangerous then yeah, call them out, but it's a wedding. Maybe just keep the comments to your wife or someone else at the wedding who also thinks it's ridiculous.
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Your group ratio is getting poisoned by people with views hostile to your own. It's okay to have some but you need to make additional friends so that very vocal group doesn't start trying to bully you and your wife gradually into their strong beliefs and claim victimhood if you don't capitulate. It's a system designed to do exactly that and you've never thought about it so you're falling into it without realizing it. It tends to catch a lot of people unaware because they aren't actively plotting or anticipating a power struggle.
Sounds like you can't get rid of them so it would be a healthy idea to gain more friends that have similar views to yours or at least have a deep respect for your right to have different beliefs than others'. Just them being there (without saying anything) will change things drastically.
The ideologues will feel more pressure to stay behaved if they see you and themselves around more other people with differing beliefs than theirs. That's the only way to keep extremists in check without them trying to wage an ideological war and then blame it squarely on you.
Sounds like you can't get rid of them so it would be a healthy idea to gain more friends that have similar views to yours or at least have a deep respect for your right to have different beliefs than others'. Just them being there (without saying anything) will change things drastically.
The ideologues will feel more pressure to stay behaved if they see you and themselves around more other people with differing beliefs than theirs. That's the only way to keep extremists in check without them trying to wage an ideological war and then blame it squarely on you.
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I'm a self reformed a-hole myself, with emphasis on the self. No one drove me to do it, I knew I had to change. That's the most important bit. Lots to unpack here though.
I call people's bullshit out all the time. Friends, coworkers, whatever. I'm not driven by a need to be right or to feel good about myself, I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy/ridiculousness of a statement. I'm 99% sure you do the same thing in 100% a different way. You can point out the flaws in someone's thinking and logic with humor and wit, and it becomes tough love that's still endearing. Your problem (and I know this because I used to do it too) is that you do it with smug pomposity and a cruel streak, because it stokes your ego. That's the kind of thing that makes people not want you around. Of course, there's always the possibility that you lack the humor or wit to do it differently, and that's a whole different post. The fact that environment bit went way over your head is testament.
At some point you're going to realize (hopefully sooner than later) that being a complete asshole to people is entirely, wholly and invariably, your decision. No one is perched on your shoulder telling you to roll your eyes at a vegan wedding that someone probably had zero intention of wanting you at, but having to invite you anyway because your wife is probably a much nicer person. You do that all on your own. You can choose to mock people because it fills some kind of void in you or covers up your own imperfections, but that'll never work and again, no one is forcing you to do it. I used to clown people all the time, even the ones closest to me because asshole was my only setting and I didn't have any other modus operandi, no other personality or self image than "I'm the dickbag". Understanding that person most expecting this behavior was looking back at me in the mirror was a key moment in my life.
Don't be a douche. Be better tomorrow. Or continue as you've always done until you've driven away everyone important in your life because they "can't handle someone being real".
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Tell them you have a family BBQ you already agreed to months ago
